Marriage is not for the faint of heart. It requires much of those who are brave enough to venture into this union of hearts.
Beyond commitment, beyond fidelity, intimacy and trust, there is the knowing that as you each grow older, you must stay very connected to each other. Intend to grow together. Be willing to let your partner be who they are without trying to change them or mold them to your desires. Talk constantly. Fight if you must to keep the communication going. Don't be silent. For when you are silently holding in resentments or questions, you are building the basis of alienation and stagnation.
You have to prod each other along the way. Keep dreams alive. Talk about them to each other. Envision your future as big and as bright as you can and lean on each other for support. Don't put your dreams on hold. Incorporate them into every decision you make. Invite him to share your dreams with you and go willingly into his. This is how to keep a marriage growing. It is no different than a garden. You have to keep up with it, or it gets "weedy".
